The Biggest myth of self-help

“We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone.” — Ronald Reagan

2 min readApr 18


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In today’s society, self-help has become a billion-dollar industry. From books to podcasts, the market is flooded with advice on how to be happier, more successful, and more fulfilled. But the truth is, the idea of “self-help” is a myth. No one can truly do it alone.

The idea of self-help suggests that we can improve ourselves without the help of others. We are told to pull ourselves up by our bootstraps and to rely solely on our own willpower and determination. But the reality is that we all need help and support along the way.

“The strongest people are not those who show strength in front of us but those who win battles we know nothing about.” — Jonathan Harnisch

Think of a time when you accomplished something significant in your life. Perhaps you landed a dream job, graduated from college, or ran a marathon. Did you achieve that goal entirely on your own? Or did you have support along the way?

Chances are, you had mentors, friends, family, or coaches who helped you along the way. Perhaps they provided advice, encouragement, or accountability. Whatever their role, they played an essential part in your success.

The truth is that we all need a support system to help us achieve our goals. We need people who believe in us, who will hold us accountable, and who will help us navigate the challenges that inevitably arise along the way.


Think about your current goals or aspirations. Who can you reach out to for support and help? It could be a friend, family member, mentor, coach, or therapist. Make a list of the people in your life who can help you achieve your goals and who you can turn to when you need support.

“Nobody can make it alone.” — Maya Angelou

In conclusion, the idea of self-help is a myth. No one can achieve success entirely on their own. We all need support, guidance, and encouragement from others to reach our full potential. So, don’t be afraid to ask for help and rely on the people around you. Together, you can achieve great things.